We all know what relationship goals are. It has become a popular term now that is everywhere on the net. On Instagram, Twitter or Snapchat, we all see that picture of a couple kissing passionately, or that guy and girl wearing matching outfits and looking like they have the perfect relationship.
These goals are seen all the time and sometimes they could be exaggerated, weird and almost inflated ideas of what a couple needs to aim for in their relationship.
To be fair, these posts are not the enemy. I mean, how can we blame people for sharing stuff about their personal lives? It is quite unfair, isn’t it? What a man and a woman decide to post on social media is their decision to make. It is the way people react and conclude on these posts that has to change.
This is another bad side of social media. It makes people compare themselves online. Users feel the need to believe everything they see on these platforms even when they are not entirely true. It is just the sad reality that has to stop.
In our generation, people just see a picture that shows a guy and a girl holding hands, kissing, staring into each other’s eyes passionately, and conclude they have the relationship they dream of without bothering to think deeply about what things could seem like and what they really are. They just hold on to the “goals.” without giving the difference between what they see online and their own reality much thought.
2 years ago, Jacy Topps had this to say about her relationship, “My relationship doesn’t have to look like other people’s. What other people do in their relationship has no bearing on mine. My partner and I didn’t need to argue like other couples, communicate like other couples, have sex like other couples and manage our household like other couples to have a successful relationship.
“We didn’t need to allow cultural trends, opinionated friends, nosy family and how-to magazine articles dictate how and when we took major steps.”
The last 23 words said it all. People are fast to accept and agree with everything they read online in articles. This is quite illogical, but believe me, it happens. Don’t get me wrong, what you read online might be sensible and reasonable, but you must make sure you analyse how they suit your relationship. There are several online relationship advice that can be true, legit and helpful, but still do not apply to you and your partner.
Jacy continued, “Opinions are formed from people’s own experiences and biases; when they suggest what they would do if they were in your shoes, it’s just that: what they would do. Not all opinions are created equal.”
This is the truth. All relationships are not the same. The sad thing about those who share their romantic “goals” online is that they do not really think about the pressure they put their lives and other lives under.
You already put a lot of effort into managing your relationship, putting yourself or others under these social media relationship goals pressure is definitely not necessary.
Love him or her for him or her, and not what you want others to think about both of you.